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They know the good people and the bad people and they will growl at the bad people. Do you think there is a right time to introduce your boyfriend to your kids?
Relationships that share any of these features, more often than not, do not last.
If a father identifies with one of these situations, but they know their new partner is committed for the long haul and will be a good influence on his children, it’s best to wait much longer than six months to test the relationship on its own.
Every mental health professional underscores the same rule: wait.
“Don’t hurry to introduce someone new to your kids,” says Aaron Welch, a licensed therapist with The Lifeworks Group in Winter Park, Fla.“The tendency is to be very excited that you’ve met someone you really like—especially after a tough divorce.