Dating practices 1960
It is commonly believed, however, that the Dutch reference here was in fact derived from a gangster (Dutch Schultz) who used this strategy to profit from racing.In United States, during the advent of second wave feminism, the late 1960s and 1970s, the women's movement encouraged women to understand aspects of their own personal lives as deeply politicized.In a courtship situation where both parts have a similar financial standing, which is commonplace in the aforementioned nations, the traditional custom of the man always paying in restaurants has largely fallen out of use and is by many, including etiquette authorities, considered old fashioned.Generally a romantic couple will take turns paying the bill or split it.But in urban areas or places frequented by tourists this has changed over the last decades.In Greece the practice is sometimes called "refenes".Splitting the bill is generally easier to compute, as it does not require checking what each individual ordered, but has the downside that people who ordered more expensive items are subsidized by others.The phrase "going Dutch" originates from the concept of a Dutch door.
In south European Countries such as Italy, Portugal, Greece it is rather uncommon for locals to have separate bills, sometimes even regarded rude, especially when in larger groups.In this way, women were making an equal investment in the cost of courtship.It became more common for women to pay their own way or to pay for men's meals.It is, however, still widely accepted that on a date, the man should be the one taking the initiative when it comes to paying the bill, which means that he is the one to pay, unless the woman signals that she will cover the tab, after which it becomes impolite for the man to insist on paying; it shows respect for the woman's desire to be treated equally to let her pay the bill.
In Finland, Sweden, Denmark, Iceland, Canada, Norway and Australia, the practice of splitting the bill in restaurants is common.
Examples include Dutch oven, Dutch courage, Dutch uncle and Dutch wife.