How to become more confident in dating
In previous posts, I’ve talked about how when a guy is being flaky, doesn’t text back, or isn’t doing something you want him to do, the worst response is to become needy.In your case, you weren’t needy – you didn’t make a big deal about it and you backed off when he wasn’t putting in the effort that you expect.As a result, he started putting in more of an effort because you gave him space to do so.I have to tell you, my e-mail box is FILLED with e-mails about how some guy didn’t text back or didn’t call or didn’t set his Facebook status to say “In a relationship”, etc.If you reach that point, just make sure you are clear on what you really want yourself, say what you need to say and be done with the conversation.Don’t drag it out into a conversation that you keep revisiting.
Sooner or later he will figure it out and, as long as you’re patient, there’s a good chance he could get into a stable relationship with you.In regards to this guy, you asked if it’s OK for you to initiate plans.In general, there’s nothing wrong with you initiating plans with a guy.So to answer your question, I don’t think this guy is a screwball at all.
Like most guys, he’s probably just figuring his situation out and simultaneously figuring out if a relationship with you is really what he’s looking for.
Maybe my situation is unusual, but in general , after several dates, is it okay for a girl ask a guy to hang out sometimes?