Meeting in person after online dating
Today is all about the messages, texts, phone calls and instant messages you exchange with your match before your first date, featuring 10 tips from Your Tango Expert Janet Ong. Start here.)So, you've found a guy online who has potential and you've agreed to go out with him. Pressure's off until you meet in person, right? Follow these rules to make sure you don't do or say the wrong thing before your first date:1. Communicating authentically is the only way you'll get to know each other. Living your life fully and having your own interests makes you a more dimensional person. Your communication will have more depth, leaving him wanting to know more about you.5. During your communications, listen and remember what he shares with you.Suggestions are okay, but pushing for what you want will likely turn him off. Stay away from subjects that are unflattering, make you appear desperate, show you in a negative light or are controversial.Always meet in a populated, public place in an area that you're familiar with such as your favorite busy restaurant.A first date is not the time for a hike through the forest or any other remote rendezvous.Arrange to have the friend call you at a specified time, such as one hour into the date, to check how things are going.Chances are you'll be having a great time and want to chat about their cute smile but if things aren't going well the call will give you an excuse to leave.If you go to the bathroom take your phone, bag and/or wallet with you. Keep any drinks close to you at all times and if you've left it, leave it. Be aware of your date's behavior and body language.Shows of anger, possessiveness, frustration or attempts to pressure or threaten you should set off alarm bells; proceed with great caution.
Letting your guard down helps him open up and feel comfortable talking, e-mailing and texting with you. Be lighthearted and stay away from heavy, serious topics. This shows him that you're interested in him rather than just looking for a free meal.First dates are always exciting but it's important to keep your personal safety in mind.