Study guide for christian dating
as a premarital or marital counseling aid, you may want to read the chapter together before going over the questions.
For group leaders, the facilitator's guide provides suggested answers or tips to key questions.
He was trying to help young men and women stop hurting each other through the endless hooking up, breaking up, hooking up, breaking up, etc. Dating/courting has turned into an elaborate set of unwritten rules which must be followed to the letter, no matter what the circumstances. But the reality is, you can’t slap these practices on top of every relationship and expect the relationship to go well.
A guy must ask a girl’s dad first, then the guy must ask the girl, then the girl must say yes, then the couple can start seeing each other IN GROUPS (! If things go well for the first eight months or so, the couple may or may not be allowed to spend semi-unsupervised time together and possibly even (GASP! Once the young man has firmly established himself financially and is sufficiently godly, he can ask the girl to marry him. Both families, as well as lots of church members, must be involved in the entire process, from start to finish. There are so many variables in each relationship: the age of the couple, the spiritual maturity of the couple, whether or not both sets of parents are believers, how long the guy and girl have been a Christian, the ethnicity of the couple, and on and on.
Those who enjoy sports will want to participate in or watch sports; those who like to visit places could choose to see historical sites, attend fairs, go on picnics, etc.; those who like to just chat, may find going to a fast-food restaurant or coffeehouse where conversation is lively to be immense fun; those who enjoy learning about the world may want to attend cultural events, participate in a book discussion, explore a museum; those who like to be involved may choose to collectively take part in church or school projects or an environmental work party. What is the one warning that the above verse gives about choice of activity? God says that dating should be conducted in an honorable way reflecting holiness. Everyone likes to feel that they fit in and that others like their company. As an added bonus to group dating, if we act responsibly on group dates our parents will probably feel more comfortable in allowing us to date in the future. May God use the material to richly bless your present or future marriage as well as the other relationships in your life. Then come to this guide to deepen and apply the principles you learn in the book.You can obtain copies of for each member of the group at your bookstore.I : “Do not be deceived: ' Evil company corrupts good habits.'” 4. That being so, it is wise not to date someone whose character or faith will lead you away from God and His way of life. What are some activities that you would like to do on a date?
Ancient Israel was warned not to intermarry with the nations around them lest their heart be turned from Him (Deuteronomy 7:3-4 11:9: “Rejoice, O young man, in your youth, And let your heart cheer you in the days of your youth; Walk in the ways of your heart, And in the sight of your eyes; But know that for all these God will bring you into judgment.” 1. : There is an endless list of good ideas for a date. (For one, consider I Corinthians .) 2:3-4: “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Can you think of ways we can act responsibly on dates?
To take some variation of the practices above and arbitrarily slap them onto a relationship can actually end up harming the relationship.